Something is Missing

Something is Missing

When we’re lonely and stuck in a box of “Only Ifs, Whys, and Why-Nots,” there is always a knot in our stomachs that screams, “Something is missing!”

Get Yourself a Pet

Maybe we must admit humans need other beings around to be healthy and happy. Ironically, the lonelier we are, the less we’ll get along with others. If you’re in this category, get yourself a dog or pet. They will make you laugh and give you the joy of feeling needed. I have two Dachshunds myself. I will admit I spend much time alone at my computer with them sitting not too far away.

As much as I love my husband, he’s not much of a talker, and his company is just not quite enough. I have a husband and kids I love to spend time with, especially my grandchildren. I think I feel lonely because I’m not an integral part of anyone else’s social circle.

Working Alone

Then there’s the problem with my job. I’m a freelance writer, and I work alone at a big desk at home. Many days, I don’t utter a single word to anyone but my husband. You can’t buy the answer to this desperate neediness to be central in another’s world. One can’t help thinking: Is Something Missing?

Social Rejection

Even at night, those like me have chaotic sleep along with nightmares, with more micro-awakenings during the night. They also suffer increased negativity, depressive thinking, heightened sensitivity to social threats, and trouble with impulse control. Even as we sleep, our minds continue to be vigilant for social rejection or threats. As a result, we tend to get drowsy during the day and miss new chances for social interaction.

Don’t Chip Away at Your Potential

Life is too short to waste time wondering what others think about you. It is, in fact, true that toxic people want you to hate yourselves. “Poor Me,” Such futile words. We may not say them, but we’ve all felt them.

Every second we spend doubting our self-worth, we chip away at our potential and wellness. We are all unique in body, thought, and heart, and we are special, living in the moment as planned.

When comparing ourselves to others, we must guard against feeling overwhelmed or not good enough. The biggest struggle in our lives is knowing, embracing, and accepting ourselves with all our quirks, faults, and imperfections.

Try some exercises to relieve yourself from negativity:

• 1. Pay attention to what is not working in your life and determine your irritant. Then, try to reduce its influence on your life.
• Take notice of what works for you and gives you pleasure. Then, try giving pleasure to others. Giving and selflessness are good for your soul and theirs.
• Don’t overthink failures. They are lessons. Learn and Accept. Let Go and Grow!
• Listen to your intuitions and follow your heart. Your mind will be pleased.
• Stop allowing other people to dilute or poison your thoughts.
• Our hearts can shine a light on others of how special we are.
• Self-love must come from our heart, our mind, and our soul.
• Overthinking the words “Poor Me” goes against your own best interest.

Nothing is more important than a healthy sense of self-esteem. This prevents you from beating yourself up or dragging yourself down over past mistakes or temporary setbacks. This takes courage and practice. With all our faults and imperfections, our biggest struggle is knowing, embracing, and accepting ourselves.

I wrote this poem in one of my down periods:

If you feel lost in the garden of souls forgotten like my inner child sometimes does,
drinking in the pearled dew while waiting hour after hour for reprieve and absolution,
a willow next to us, trembling knowingly at the trials we’re facing, a swan singing a melody nearby,
all of us living by breath alone, whispering

“Where is our God? Why has he forsaken us?”

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Remember, someone will always be willing to hurt you, put you down, gossip about you, belittle your accomplishments, and judge you as unworthy. We are living in an era of dehumanization. We have grown numb to less social interaction by way of new technology. Even so, no one has the right to say or do anything that diminishes us in our own eyes, not our politicians, our neighbors, our fellow churchgoers, or our domestic partners.

Dignity

Hurting a person’s dignity should be labeled a crime, but it is not. So, we must hold ourselves up during those moments when others try to tear us down. When we maintain our self-assurance, we’re like comets hitting a new atmosphere. When we stay positive, we can uncover feelings of self-assurance that we didn’t know existed.

Have a clear vision of yourself as a shooting star like me. I’m not going to die out if I fight to believe I am special, just as I was created to be, and find out that something is missing.

Remember, life can beat us down, and the walls we build can be so dense that even our dearest friends, partners, spouses, and children can’t get in. Imagine how our world would be different if we stopped allowing other people to dilute or poison our moments, their words, or opinions.