Queer Gals for Straight Guys
Queer Gals for Straight Guys
Wake up my testosterone engorged brothers. Our estrogen-dominant queer sisters have the inside scoop on pleasuring women. If you want to get off your tired stereotyped butt and really connect with a woman, listen up.
They blew the top off the usual paradigms and images males cling to and provided a choice, challenge, and opportunity for men to approach women in a different light. Here are some of the juicy tips and wise suggestions they shared about how to truly love a woman and enrich your life.
DON’T BE CONFINED OR LIMITED BY SIGHT
Men get stuck in the visuals and only see tits and ass or some mountaintop to climb and reach its peak. Gender is more complex and fluid than that. It can be difficult for men to enjoy the whole picture and appreciate the in-between places, the different layers, and textures of a woman. Women tend to be more process-oriented and appreciate a man who sees more in them than a place to park their penis.
DON’T FOCUS ON “GETTING OFF”
The illusion that it’s hard for women to climax is bogus. She can come by herself anytime she chooses. When you’re together, enjoy being together. LOVEMAKING IS AN EXCHANGE, not a pursuit.
STOP TREATING WOMEN’S NIPPLES LIKE A TARGET
They aren’t radio tuning knobs or buttons to be pushed. The nipple is one small part of the entire breast, which is connected to tissue across her chest and under her arm. Enjoy the whole thing. The same goes for the clitoris. It is contained and surrounded by an array of wonderful muscles, nerves, and skin that extend outward and inward. Take it all in.
ENJOY THE SENSUALITY OF SEX
Enjoy the moment-to-moment pleasure. Take time to love every inch of your partner. Let the tension build, then linger, play with it, experiment, bathe in the ebb and flow of energy. — USE ALL YOUR SENSES of touch, smell, sight, sound, and taste. Sex is a basic human need. It comes in a variety of flavors. Make it tasty. Make it fun.
TAKE YOUR GIRLFRIEND/WIFE/PARTNER/FRIEND TO AN EROTIC BOUTIQUE OR HAVE HER TAKE YOU
Get some toys, books, lingerie, videos, oils, and/or vibrators.
VIBRATORS AREN’T JUST FOR WOMEN
Men can receive just as much pleasure from a vibrator as a woman can.
BE WILLING TO HAVE ANYTHING YOU DO WITH HER DONE TO YOU
That’s right, anything. If you want to have her kiss, lick, and suck you everywhere, then do likewise. If you love kissing her breasts then let her lick and suck yours. If you want to come inside of her or have anal sex, be willing to have anal sex and be penetrated by her. Be willing to take what you give (but only when it is something you mutually wish to experience and is safe).
LISTENING TO YOUR PARTNER WHEN SHE SPEAKS AND GIVING HER ATTENTION IS LOVE
Eye contact and the courage to honestly reveal yourself emotionally and physically is love. When you risk being open and intimate you allow her to do likewise. Sex isn’t just jumping into bed and diving in; it’s sharing your feelings, thoughts, desires, fears, hopes, and dreams. It’s being open to change and transformation. COMMUNICATE in bed (or on the floor, table, couch, chair, car, or beach).
THE BEST LOVERS
ARE THOSE THAT TALK about sex, feelings, thoughts, experiences, and desires.
MOST WOMEN ARE PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY IN FLUX
Instead of complaining about these changes, CELEBRATE THE UPS AND DOWNS, the curveballs, and the unexpected. It makes life more adventuresome and unpredictable. Every day is a new day. Every time you make love is different. What a wonderful gift to be sexually reborn and see each other for the first time again and again.
CAST A SPELL
Create a nurturing, loving, sacred environment for you and your lady. Use it as a retreat, an inner journey, and a safe sanctuary to explore and discover your erotic selves. Sex doesn’t take place in a sterile vacuum. Put it in context. Give it time, attention, and meaning. Make an altar to your sexual union.
IT TAKES COURAGE
TO BE INTIMATE and not let the privileges that heterosexual men are accustomed to in our society confine your life and define who you are. Our greatest fears are to allow another human being to look inside and see who we really are. Don’t just touch a woman’s body; touch her soul. Open the door and let her inside your heart as much as you want to be inside of her. ACKNOWLEDGE THE BEAUTY, WISDOM, SEXUALITY, POWER, AND FREEDOM IN THE WOMAN YOU LOVE.