The Language of Love
Our happiness depends on picking partners that show they can love us the way we need to be loved.
For a better understanding of desire, we must learn to read each other’s body language.
Shakespeare wrote, “Your face is as a book where men may read strange matters.” He also said, “There’s language in her eye…” Chaucer wrote, “Paradise stood formed in her eye….” My personal favorite is Ben Johnson’s saying, “Drink to me only with thine eyes, and I will pledge thee with mine.”
Women like to giggle, gyrate, and dance up and down when we’re happy. Men love to watch us except when we’re crying. Men are also animated when happy. They scream out, jump this way and that as if in a sports arena, and they like fantasizing about sex in or out of the bedroom.
We’re all designed with a sense of spiritually, creativity and a sense of humor. We need humor and laughter in our relationships if we are ever to have peace of mind. When we laugh – we’re less afraid. How else than by laughing could we so enjoyably exercise our heart, relieve tensions and boost our mood at a moment’s notice? How else can we wash away our bad habits and endear ourselves to others?
Laughter sends us a social signal that all is well. It is also a great conversational lubricant and bonding agent to others. “Laughing is mysterious and unpredictable,” says Dave Chappelle, the comedian, “A lot of times the humor does not come from pain exactly, it comes from things that make you anxious or afraid. It just helps you put them in perspective if you laugh at them.”
I laugh because my significant other likes cowboy movies. I like romantic comedies. My husband likes being away from the house. I like being at home. We both enjoy all kinds of music. The only show we make a practice of watching together is So You Think You Can Dance. The only other thing we both like is each other when we are not in each other’s personal space or business. He is easy to live with because he cooks his own food, takes care of his own clothes, and allows me the time to keep my mind’s eye on writing or whatever creative task is at hand. We never attempt complete ownership of the other’s time. We’re both free to follow our dreams and be our own person. I feel like this is the way to live successfully with another.
Conclusions – Healthy relationships, establishing them and maintaining them, should rank high on our list of priorities before death. Scientists have discovered that giving is just as uplifting to our natures as spending money, taking drugs, drinking alcohol or even having sex. If you are like me, you may have an addictive personality and will find pleasing others spiritually enlightening. Giving to others pads our soul with love and goodness.
The infamous Waldo Emerson recommends us, “To laugh often and abundantly, to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children. To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betray of false friends to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition, to know everyone has breathed easier because you loved. This is to have succeeded.”