Cyber Bullying

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Does a celebrity know those who stalk them, bully them, or harass them?  We are not speaking only about celebrities, but about all public figures around the world, including politicians.

These individuals are targets, and at times have been treated unfairly due to the big wide world of the web.  Many have paid large sums of money to stop a legal battle with a stranger whom they never met, or never will.  Everyone is a target in cyber-space, but those with their names in lights, or with the largest record of accomplishments, face cyber bullying.

cyber-bullyingCyber-space is nothing like my life in Beverly Hills, where I lived for most of my life.  There I felt safe, and guarded, protected by one another; our peers were those who treated us with great respect.

Sure, we may not have agreed with a newspaper article or comments in a celebrity column, but it did not ruin our life, nor the lifes of those who work for us.  We took it as a compliment, having our name in print; rather the reporter was exaggerating or simply telling a little white lie.

It was respect that seemed so important as we went about our daily life.  From the outside looking in, they did not see what went on in homes, at studios, etc., but today everything is a house of mirrors.

As a public figure we have jobs to complete, and return to our normal life, yet the public still wants to know more, see more, and become close to those they idolize.  Every day you have to watch what you say, where you go, and what others are talking about, especially on the web.  I have been in the public eye as a mainstream author, talk show host, and have been in the entertainment business for over twenty years.  I have watched as things began to change for entertainers; my peers, and began to feel as if all that protection from Beverly Hills had gone, and now it was up to me, and others, to protect ourselves.

Famous people, those in the public eye, etc., are real people who were blessed with talent, and their talent speaks for them.  As anyone who’s employed, and climbing the social ladder to the top, the hours are long and the work is not easy.  One thing I can say, anyone can make it out there if they are determined, but let’s not place a damper on success because of a few who would like to destroy hard work.  It is not that God has bestowed gifts on certain ones; he gave each one of us our own special talents. It is their bread and butter, and most have children and families to protect as you do, because away from the camera they prefer to be real people.

These Public figures and celebrities are there for your family’s entertainment.  So we get down to the bullying of these individuals, those who find it funny to spend time using their newly acquired skills on social media sites, not for the good of the people, but for their own satisfaction. As they log onto social media sites, they are ready to harass, and stalk our celebrities.  It is as if there is a clock in their brain and when it is time to strike one; they stop what they are doing and need some laughs, on their end of the world.  What they don’t understand is that these people have families, and must protect not only their name, but their life and reputation; safety comes first.

Often I wonder why people enjoy destroying others; reminding me of the made for T.V. movies, which are from real life stories, those people had something to gain, or is it plain boredom or some games people play?  Fame is for those who are talented and as I stated, worked hard to get where they are today.  Fame gained by illegal means is short lived.  If society has turned to destroying the lives of anyone who has worked hard to get where they are, it is sad, we have gone far beyond the few newspaper clippings, knowing well enough – anything can be changed in this world of technology.

Exploiting, bullying, and so forth, has become a serious problem in our society.  Since my background goes back many years to Beverly Hills, and I have recently published a book, I have been in the public’s eye and recently had a terrible experience with one I must call the hunter, someone who wants to pull you away from your success, and set you on a different track.  My attacker was tracked and followed outside of the social media site.  In their mind they were playing games without knowing a high profile; a renowned legal team was backing me.  These professionals would advise me to take action against those attacking me on my own site, or places where I had some clear-cut reason to be, if I did not, it would have grown out of control.

Social Media sites now have high ranking security watching everyone, and if there is any cause to intervene, it is handled with care, and properly.

What causes some of these problems is basic, some as basic as not having your facts straight, telling stories which are untrue, attacking the persons person.  That is what it takes to bully someone.

Any business which reaches the public and the news is high profile, but many of these cases happen to those in the entertainment field.  As entertainers we all are family, and all watch out for one another. Celebrities and public figures are wise enough to listen to those who are on detail to watch out for us, and to go by the laws when attacked, taking action as security swings into high gear.

It is important for everyone to know why attacking, bullying, etc., anyone in public places, will do you harm, and not bring you fame.  It will not bring the famous to your door step, it will do the opposite.  Instead, do something good, as many stars have done in the past and still do. Spend time with a charity of your choice.  If one of your so called “famous people” have a charity, and you want to help, do something like this – you would have a better chance knowing who you once stalked by giving of yourself in a helpful manner.

Your age does not matter, be wise, don’t take the wrong path on the web – it is hurtful, spiteful and mean.  And most of all, it is illegal to do these things to a public person or anyone for that matter.

I mentioned my attacker, who had nothing to do with me personally, but rather a lady who works with celebrity sites, a handful of people did not like her, and she decided to attack me.

If you have a problem with someone go directly to that person, If they work with a celebrity, leave the celebrity out of it; period.

Famous people have a large team protecting them, and attorneys who work for them on all aspects of their life and career.  If you really want to hurt someone, stalk someone; think about it the next time, think of the way you can use valuable time, not to hurt, but to heal.

When you are finally a star, you as the star have spies working for you, my terminology, but they are always with you, just like the secret service.  A star has a huge team following them, and what the stalker does, or attempts to do, will not go un-noticed; Entertainment attorneys, management, publicity agencies and others you never see or hear about are never out of sight, and there is no doubt a huge money team around them.  A star never has to defend himself; as for the stalker, usually caught because of familiar patterns, the next place he will be in is jail.

It is highly illegal to be a stalker, and I have listed the top codes in Law below, which are for those of you who may not fully understand.  People want to be treated kindly and with respect, and no one should try to harm others, or their careers, so stars need more protection.  No matter what career you have chosen, you deserve to be treated fairly, and not dragged through the mud.  You know, I once heard someone say that those who do these types of crimes are only jealous of what they desired, and never worked hard enough to achieve that.

Our public figures and stars need continual protection in cyber-space, and one day, I hope social media remains a safe place for the best, so one can remain unscathed.   We all need more protection against cyber bullying and stalking, this includes you, no matter your chosen field; let’s treat everyone fairly.

Below are the criminal codes describing what happens when you make a decision to harm anyone in our field of work, and chosen careers, or for anyone who has been a victim of Social Media Cyber Attack’s.

Subsection 264 of the Criminal Code states:
(1) No person shall, without lawful authority, and knowing that another person is harassed or recklessly as to whether the other person is harassed, engage in the conduct referred to in subsection (2) that causes that other person reasonably, in all the circumstances, to fear for their safety or the safety of anyone known to them.

(2) The conduct mentioned in subsection (1) consists of (a) repeatedly following from place to place the other person or anyone known to them; (b) repeatedly communicating with, either directly or indirectly, the other person or anyone known to them; (c) besetting or watching the dwelling-house, or place where the other person, or anyone known to them resides, works, carries on business, or happens to be; or (d) engaging in threatening conduct directed at the other person or any member of their family.

In plain English, below are some examples which better describe the Stalking/Criminal Harassment behaviors referred to in subsection 264 of the Criminal Code:

  • repeated, unwanted contact by telephone calls/hang-ups, letters, cards, faxes
  • repeated, unwanted contact over the Internet in chat rooms, newsgroups, or through email (also known as “cyber stalking”)
  • sending unwanted gifts of any kind (pleasant gifts such as flowers, candy, toys, books, jewelry, pictures, et cetera; or strange gifts such as bullet casings, lockets of hair, bloody clothing, et cetera)
  • showing up uninvited wherever you happen to be
  • stealing/opening your personal mail to find out more about you
  • ordering/canceling goods or services on your behalf
  • following you, watching you, maintaining surveillance on you
  • threatening to harm you, your family, friends or pets
  • harassing your family, friends, colleagues, or your employer
  • convincing his/her friends to spy on you, or harass you (sometimes referred to as “stalking by proxy”)
  • filing multiple frivolous court claims against you in order to harass or simply keep in touch with you
  • vandalizing your property
  • breaking into your home/office
  • kidnapping you, holding you hostage
  • assaulting you
4 Comments
  1. Jack Eason says

    Great article. The equivalent over here in the UK is the despicable practice of phone hacking carried out by certain newspapers of recent times Which is still under investigation. 🙂

  2. Nancy Duci Denofio says

    Alexandria – people work hard to get where they are and then they must have protection to keep them there, how sad, yet I must say many people would love to be in the shoes of those who are known around the world, but those same people, do they have a private life, and do they ever think back to what it was before the world knew them as a famous person? Would they ever take a walk in the shoes of someone who may resemble them, before they made it big? I think those people have protection, but they also need a life. Great article, Sincerely, Nancy

  3. Judy Markova says

    As an unknown person, it is hard to imagine what some celebs have to go through. Thank you, Alexandria, for sharing this eye-opener.

  4. Marie Jones says

    Thank you Alexandria for being so open and honest. God Bless you.

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