Growing Up Italian
Joanna Clapps Herman tells it like it was for so many Italians growing up in America in the twentieth century. Every story becomes more telling than the next—what a grounding read.
For me, that means two aunts by marriage and one 90-year old half-blood cousin are all who are left of my parent’s brothers and sisters.
Of course, a great deal of the charm of Herman’s stories is that they are true originals that are fantastically entertaining.
For me, this book hooked me from the start, and reading it to completion became a priority I read every spare minute until I finished. And when I finished it, I wanted more stories. I knew relatives like this.
Growing up Italian in America is my life. The Italian way of life
I relate to Latins more than I relate to Russians, who knows why? In our home, Italian food was served and savored. Italians made up the most visitors. My mother’s two sisters both married Latins. My own cooking is Italian-based. Walk into my home and you can’t miss the rich reds, ornate lamps, beautiful woods, and all the marble tables. Even the 20-foot kitchen wall looks like marble.
Still, growing up Italian in the ’40s and ’50s was not always easy. In 1950, we moved from our Camden, New Jersey, Italian neighborhood to white bread Maple Shade, New Jersey at the beginning of the summer and into our house by September. By July, my mother asked me if I had to be outside so much because I was getting so dark, the neighbors were gossiping about it. Hmmm.
What’s it like to be the darkest person in a whole town? Did it bother me that the neighbors thought I was too dark for them, that I looked Spanish or Negro? Did it make me stay inside more after my mother said what she said?
I’m Italian. I look fine to me in winter as well as summer, loved my tan, and went outside all the time, because Italians like it outside in nature, close to God’s earth, where the birds, animals (Maple Shade allowed all homeowners to have horses), fruit trees, flowers all were. What was in the house in the summer? Nothing is all that interesting. And, you needed to go outside for ice cream, candy, and the bakery, and Italians love their favorite foods.
Interestingly, nobody in school mentioned how dark I was and after that one conversation with my mother, my coloring was never mentioned again. Still, I did hear WHOP and Ginny. Incidentally, my father worked outside, so he got even darker than me in the summer.
When he mowed the lawn, because he wore long-sleeved shirts to work, his arms were white compared to his very brown face and hands. I can tell you, I doubt very much if any neighbor dared to say anything to my father about how dark he was compared to others in our town of light-skinned people.
As an artist, I understand the passion that motivates the Italian artists best: Titian, Michelangelo, Leonardo da Vinci, Panini, Donatello, Correggio, Caravaggio, Botticelli, Bellini.
When all is said and done, like other, nationalities, Italian is an attitude. For me, Italian attitude means being sure of oneself, understanding of self, knowing what one is about, having great faith in God, an immovable loyalty, knowing how to work tirelessly at something that motivates the passion, loves beauty in all its forms, loves with the whole heart, relishes eating good food and refuses to eat bad food, and won’t be bullied or influenced by the demands of others.
My father, when he was a Private First Class in the Army, looked at Mess and refused to eat it. He ended up peeling potatoes for a long time. Seems the Lieutenant did not understand Italians.