Most of us want things to have calm and order in our lives, which is not always the case when it comes to human beings because we are so unpredictable.
We also want it to be true others need to know us as much as the need to know them. This is not always the way life works. We are such fragile creatures when it comes to trusting others with our true selves. Friendship is a unique kind of relationship that beckons us into pairing off and huddling into corners.
Friendship offers a quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing, and loyalty. We may have a lot in common or not. It exists through good and bad times. We can forgive friends easier than others. The New Living Testament advises in Proverbs 27:5-6 states “…Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.”
Be aware that the workplace can crackle with competition, so people quickly learn to hide vulnerabilities and quirks of others making friendship hard. Despite our good intentions, work associations often take on a transitional feel. It is almost impossible to say where networking ends and real caring begins. Furthermore, most adults value the financial security of their jobs more than friendship with coworkers. Numerous studies with adults suggest that friendships and other supportive relationships do enhance self-esteem.
We must remember, there is no plastic surgery that can put our smiles back when we move too fast on love. Unfortunately, neediness is a disease we cannot cure in the lap of others. It is true we can only be happy with someone else when we’re happy with ourselves. Friendships can serve as a protective factor against loneliness and compensate for potential losses in social support previously given by family and work. Additionally, older adults who remain in contact with friends show improved psychological well-being and better health & wellness.
We must treasure our friends and family, holding them more fiercely and freely, not because there is nothing to lose but because our lives can end at any moment. We also must stay far away from negativity and power seekers who waste our potential. We need to believe in God and his angels and messengers. Faith will surely lift you up mentally, physically and financially. Think about if you have enough faith and hope in your life? For without the joy and satisfaction that is both, you will experience a life-long feeling of deprivation, disappointment, scarcity, and resentment. It makes us sadder when others have your love, but you don’t have theirs.
I am thankful to all those who have entered my life and shared their love with me. I am confident falling in love is a good thing for nothing is lonelier than not knowing love. We all deserve to be loved unconditionally. Finding companionship is love’s greatest reward whether there is passion or not. Time really does heal what is hurting. So, when love affairs have seasoned, the lasting bonds slide into memories of the common uniqueness you both shared. There will never be two more like you. There is nothing material that measures up against the intangibles of you as a couple. You can be “in love” with something or you can “love” how well something works or performs. Either way, love is a strong word. Of course, you must be cautious in its use. Remember, your love may work well, or it may not. It’s a game of chance, luck, and persistence.
Even when we’re coiffed, perfumed and eager, we must approach love cautiously. Take your time. Get to know yourself before trying to get to know others. Love is one of those intangibles, we cannot touch yet it touches us in so many ways. Each of us shares a piece of our soul with those we interconnect with daily even if there was pain involved. It is a natural thing that we instinctively give love to some and hold back affection from others. This may be because not all of us trust in love’s genius after they have been hurt. First and foremost, we must have faith in ourselves before we can choose to have faith in others. Some of us might even jump up and down on the bed or couch. Others delight in our performance or shake their heads confusingly. It is our human nature that wants us to scream out, “Yeah, I’m in love.”