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Successfully Change your Life: Fed up with yourself for failing to change successfully those things about you, your business, and your life you know you must change?

How many times have you said to yourself, I should do this! Nothing much happened, right? Change only comes when you say to yourself, ‘I must change this.’

Change is belief-driven. Whatever your belief, that’s your reality at any given moment. In my book Grow Yourself a Life You’ll Love, I share a concept with the acronym B.A.F.A. Your Beliefs determine your Attitudes. Your attitudes determine your Feelings. Your feelings cause you to Act. Feelings/Emotions power up your change-action motor.

Only when you feel not changing will cause you more pain than changing, will you have the necessary motivation to move forward, accomplishing change.

The 7-Step Formula for Successful Change

Consider this example. You have terrible knee pain. You’ve tried all the creams, drug store pain medications, wraps, braces. Still, every step hurts. Okay, enough, you’re reached your motivated must-do stage. You sit in the orthopedic surgeon’s office and hear your knee needs medical intervention. Great! You’re ready to do whatever it takes to fix your knee. You know the surgery and recovery will be painful but look forward to the promise your knee will be fully functional and pain-free if you are diligent in doing what you are told post-surgery.

Then, the doctor says, “But I can’t operate until you lose at least 50 pounds.” Whoosh! Hit with a medicine ball.

Cut-to-the-Chase Steps to Ready Yourself for Must-Do Change

  1. Change Beliefs That Keep You From Changing–Beliefs
    These are hard to change because they represent an acceptance of a statement or a set of circumstances. For example, you own the belief you’ve tried everything, and nothing worked for you. You are telling yourself a lie. How so? You did not try everything, because if you had, you’d have found something that worked. You’ve likely heard the story of Thomas Edison’s experiments to create electricity and his response to someone who pointed out how many times he failed. Edison responded that he had not failed, but rather discovered over 3,000 ways that didn’t work to create electricity. You need to examine your failure beliefs around the change you choose to make and replace them with change-friendly beliefs.
  2. Changing Your Beliefs Will Help Change Your Attitudes
    You need to examine your attitudes once you get rid of your change-stopping beliefs. Look at your opinions, the way you see things, and your outlook to see how they stand in the way of change. Why? Examining them can allow you to make appropriate attitude adjustments. This step moves you from can’t to can. Then, in positive attitude mode, you need to unpack the how-to of losing your 50 pounds so you can get your surgery. Look at all your options: do-it-yourself, hire a coach (I’ve kept my weight within 20 pounds of my first diet at 11 for over 60 years), enter an outpatient hospital program, go to a weight-loss doctor, a nutritionist or sign up for one of the popular national diet programs. This choice depends on your lifestyle, budget, and personality.
  3. Changing Your Beliefs & Attitudes Will Power up Your Feelings
    Motivate you to Act on Your Commitment to Lose Your 50 Pounds to Get Your Knee Surgery. At this point, you’ve done the mind work to feel ready to make your change.
  4. Is Your Motivation Strong Enough to Build the Commitment to Act with a Solid Plan to Reach Your Goal?
    Only you can answer that. When you get ready, monitor your beliefs, attitudes, and feelings all along the way to your goal. And let no one stop you from change success.

Remember to take responsibility for the condition you want and need to change. It’s not likely an Act of God, somebody else’s fault, or some situation’s fault. Consider what one client told me, I’m fat because it’s in my DNA. Everybody in our family eventually gets fat after 40 and dies fat unless they get cancer. Predisposed to obesity? Maybe. Impossible to be slim after 40? We worked, and she lost weight after 40 and kept it off for 15 years that I know of until she moved to Florida.

Sticking with the 50-pound barrier to surgery example, consider

Beliefs that tie you to dysfunctional habits stop you from improving the way you do business or the way you live your life. Change is not only possible but also profitable and life-enhancing.

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