On Turning 50: No More White Underwear!

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The very day I turned 50, changes began to happen to me. I decided to put myself in charge of my life, and so I did. My first decision was to divorce my husband. That was slow going. The money I took out of my IRA somehow got spent on a Mac laptop with full accessories.

I might have enhanced my ability to get paid more often for my writing but it still wouldn’t get me back the $1500 the lawyer wanted for the retainer fee. Time to take another route: an attorney who had an office nearer to me and one who would take payments. Bingo!

Nicola-GriffinNow I was headed somewhere. Time to tell husband. Husband says ‘it would be cheaper to get a dissolution.’ Okaaaaay….

At my ‘yearly’ with my gyno, (right after turning 50) part of the payment includes ‘consultation’ or as I like to call it, ‘confession.’ I informed my doctor with my best Emancipation Proclamation tone of voice that I was bored and wanted to have an affair.

He dropped his pencil and clipboard and blushed. I said, ‘Not with you….Uh, sorry?’
He blushed again. Doctors are supposed to have absolutely no feelings whatsoever, so I blushed. Blushing is not what you are supposed to do in your gynecologist’s presence! But I meant all three statements.

So if I was going to have an affair I’d better get more acquainted with tricky ways to make my ‘slightly’ overweight, but still shapely body more attractive. So I threw out the horror of white cotton underwear.

When once they had been my security and comfort, these utilitarian undies now robbed me of all of my sexuality.

I went to “Vicky’s Secret Drawers” and spent a small fortune on glorious unmentionables. If it was bright I bought it. If a bra advertised any kind of ‘enhancement!’ I bought several of those too. And I’ll tell you why.

In my teens, twenties, thirties, and lower 48s I was hot! It wouldn’t matter if I wore camel fur underwear; they’d be off in no time since I wanted to expose my still-in-shape-stomach. Now is a different story.

With luscious underwear, a man will get a glimpse of an exciting and colorful poesy before the poochies are exposed. And ‘enhancing’ bras perk up those saggy parts that someday will look like shar-pei puppies.

It is clear I needed more exercise, so belly dancing seemed logical. It was a hoot–for everyone but me. All I could think of
when I saw myself in the mirror dancing were Fantasia’s hippos. I thought of fencing. Now there’s a fancy sport! I couldn’t handle fencing though.

But that won’t stop me from trying later, unless I break something before doing something else, like regular, normal exercise. Exercise makes me sick. No, really. I get nauseated doing sit-ups. I will work on this later. Really.

From belly dancing, I did learn that keeping my feet nice is worth every pedicured cent. My heels were smooth and my toes even and red hot. It made me feel sexy, even as the floppiness of my dancing style did not. But I enjoyed every moment of my belly dance experience and was sorry when it ended.

I ramped up my writing assignments by begging my editor to send me here or there for a story and these became social events. I wanted to talk to busy, interesting, and successful people. So I put myself in their way.

I could use these experiences to learn something. I was waiting, hoping to have an exciting person become my friend.

Yet it was still a surprise when I met Ralph at a Civil War Reenactor event. He was participating as a private wearing a full period uniform and a scruffy beard. Cute. But it was his chattiness that kept me near.

I learned a lot from him and it was fun to watch all the participants who-waahing and shooting their muskets. Pvt. Ralph was ‘on’ all day and allowed me to drag him around posing as a mourning soldier at veteran’s graves. I hung out in his tent the rest of the day writing about the Memorial Day events.

When his parents showed up around noon Ralph’s father remarked, “I knew it! Already he’s got a girl in his tent!”

It was then I learned that he had been recently dumped himself. It was also then that I uncontrollably fell hard, way over my head into deep, deep water for a 32-year-old. And he jumped in right after me, knowing I was older, not yet knowing my true age at all.

I wanted to scream “I am 50 and I am beautiful!!!” I still got it! and a handsome 32-year old with a crush on me to prove it.

No more white cotton underwear.

On Turning 50: No More White Underwear! was last modified: October 9th, 2017 by Kathy Ann Barney

11 Responses to "On Turning 50: No More White Underwear!"

  1. Amanda Katherine  Monday, June 7, 2010 at 17:06

    Wow!
    That is an incredible story and really made me smile!
    Good luck with everything. Continue being a sexy kitten no matter your age!
    ~Amanda~

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  2. Dianne Murray  Monday, June 7, 2010 at 17:19

    I understand your mindset regarding making a chance, but mine occurred at age 60. I called and told my husband that we were moving to Caracas, Venezuela. I had found a job there, so we sold our house and cars and took the cat to Caracas. (Cheaper than a divorce, by the way.)
    Glad you found sexy undies and a hot young admirer! Life ought to be exciting sometimes! Write on!!
    Dianne

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  3. Kathy Barney  Monday, June 7, 2010 at 18:10

    Dianne: Thank you for understanding!

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  4. Kathy Barney  Monday, June 7, 2010 at 18:11

    Thank you, Amanda!

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  5. Marsha A. Moore  Monday, June 7, 2010 at 18:22

    Great story! I didn’t wait until 50 to give up my cotton undies – isn’t life much nicer without them?!?!

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    • Daphne Shapiro  Sunday, May 27, 2012 at 13:56

      Without them, period 🙂

      Reply
  6. BMW  Tuesday, June 8, 2010 at 2:47

    Great article. I’m sending it to some friends!

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  7. Steve Davis  Tuesday, June 8, 2010 at 14:24

    Good for you. It’s obvious to me that you were stagnating in the marriage. Life is too short to not live the one you want. My wife and I work hard at keeping passion alive and not taking each other for granted. Marriage should be fun, as should any relationship. Go for the gusto.

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  8. Nurith Hadassa  Wednesday, June 9, 2010 at 8:54

    What a great, funny story!

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  9. John Wheatherford  Friday, June 18, 2010 at 3:09

    Thanks for an honest and truthful post, the like of which is surprisingly rare and all the more valuable for it. Regards, John.

    Reply
  10. Joyce White  Thursday, June 19, 2014 at 17:05

    I can relate to divorce and giving up white cotton panties. The stretchy ones hold your belly in and improve on
    your muscle tone. Fine story. You are so lucky to write for a living. I enjoyed your article. Been there, done all that.

    Reply

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