I am very happy that someone has given me the opportunity to express what I want. It is great to know that I can think whatever I like without anyone telling me that I am exaggerating, dreaming or always complaining, or “Get A Life”.
Are you Ready?!
Women want… to be treated nicely. It is simple, right? Two words that mean a lot. But just a minute, what is a woman??? A woman is a 3 year old child, a 12 year old teenager, a 17 year young lady, a 30 year old woman or… how should we say, an experienced woman at the age of 40 to 50?
As I have already experienced all these life phases I can testify that a woman should be treated nicely and that it is true for every age.
A 3 year old child knows how to get what she wants from her parents and family. Even outside her immediate family she will always know how to get what she wants from complete strangers just by giving them a certain look or a smile. She will get a candy in the supermarket or a slice of salami at the butcher. As a preschool teacher -that’s my specialty- when a girl just takes one look at me and / or touches my hand or, even better, when she makes a drawing just for me, then I am all hers.
Children and especially girls know, from the moment they are born, how to get all the attention they need. Every new step they make has to be rewarded. A little girl has that special smile for her dad that turns him into clay in her little hands and Mom will immediately buy her a gift for every new progress she makes like: the first time she turns over, her first tooth, first step, first jump or her first word.
The little girl is getting older. Her schoolbag has to be fancy, a Barbie or any other popular icon. The pencil case must be beautiful to match the sparkling pencil crayons within. The shoes- boots-scarves-jackets they all carry labels that I can’t pronounce or remember. A girl grows up in her fairytale room and of course it has to be her room alone because, god forbid, her siblings might disturb her night rest and she is very sensitive to noise. She grows up believing that she and she alone is a princess. The boots become high heeled, the skirts become shorter, v-necks become deeper, the Barbie bag turns into a very sophisticated one and her notebook becomes a laptop; the super light version of course.
Mom and dad have been gradually replaced by her boyfriend and her husband, and the princess continues to dream and strive, and no matter how it came about, to be ’’nicely treated spoilt” with her house, car, and all the extra accessories.
So what is the problem!!!!
That’s what I also want!!! -ha ha.
Where I come from, I was taught to be “modest”, to “be happy with what we have”, and to say “thank you for everything we have” and, ”thank god”. When the husband comes home from work, food must be on the table, the house must be tidy and his wife must have a smile on her face…………. (I don’t want to go into further details).
If I was obedient and would have listened to my mother in law, I would have also been quiet most of the time. Well, that was too much even for me!
My daughters belong to the new generation. They know exactly how to receive the attention they want from their husbands and from others around them and the same goes also for my daughter in law. Just like it is for most modern women.
What I find very interesting, considering that I was brought up and educated differently and my reality was different, is where they got it from?? Where and when did they obtain the strength to insist and demand? Maybe what I consider to be “spoilt” actually means to be equal?
I have a feeling that things change under my nose without me noticing. Life is too short to realize all your experiences and therefore you just live; no time to analyze everything. My surrounding grew to know me as I am, so every time I want to change a personal habit, it is as if I owe everyone an explanation for things that are considered “normal” for everybody else. In a moment of awareness, the most important thing that I learned was: Love yourself, spoil yourself and the surrounding will follow. Believe me it works!
The women of today do not have to know how to cook, clean, sew, wash and to iron and all other skills that were only “meant” for women. Women know how to take control of their lives and the people around them. They know how to be beautiful, talented and spoilt……………………………….
And what about me? Who knows, maybe in the next life?